Pride Parade 08
要写Pride 游行很久了。但Ed很自豪他为这部落拍的照片。硬要自己来整理，不让我这个闲空小姐来做。他说，我的水准没他的好。我等啊等的， 等到花儿也谢了，都见不到他‘专业水准’的照片。唉！男人靠不得。还是我自己先贴上一张让大家赏赏吧。
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Pride 是多伦多一年一度同性恋者的游行。我去年错失了，今年当然没‘走宝’。暂不多说当天的游行。先说一说这张照片。
那天，当同性恋者的父母的团体游行到我们面前时，我很被这团体做的字牌感动。人多，他们也走得快。我其实没法每个牌子看个清。记得看到英文的’ We choose to be a family’ 和Ed拍到的这张。
“我们爱我们的同性恋子女，没有任何附带条件”…..写得多好, 写得多贴切。写得出，我想必定亲身经历过。
在加拿大这个较开放的国家，这里的父母也经历过接受不了自己的子女是同性恋者。即使接受，可能也如字牌上写的，附带了一些条件。这使我想起在亚洲长大的同性恋者。他们要走的路可能更艰辛。
其实，我认识蛮多亚洲朋友是同性恋者。在亚洲住的很多都不敢告诉父母，瞒得多久就多久。当他们跟我诉苦时，我也不知怎么回答是好。有朋友告诉我，他们认识一些朋友明知道本身是同性恋的，被父母又催又逼下，随便结婚算了。至于，住在外国的，多选择不回国，因为知道不会被社会接受。
那天，我和Ed看了游行后，跑去了住在附近的同性恋朋友家派对。他们是一对中年的男同性恋者。两人在一起十多年了，开开心心，不用掩饰，也不怕别人的眼光。两人很努力地一起建造生活，有事业有车有房子，有很多很好很关心他们的家人朋友。
那天看着他们，我心底默默为我的亚洲同性恋朋友祈求，希望有朝一日他们也会有这种生活。
I wanted to write about Pride Parade for a long time. What stopping me was the long wait of the ’supposedly better edited’ photos from Ed. Well, Ed thought he had taken very good photos at Pride, and insisted he himself would do the editing, because he is more professional. So, I waited and waited, nothing has been done. No longer has the patience, let me first share with you all the above photo.
Pride Parade is an annual gay and lesbian parade in Toronto. I don’t want to write the details of Pride Parade today but to share some thoughts on the photo above.
Ed took this photo when the association of parents of gay and lesbian marching past us, each of them holding a sign. Due to the crowd and they were walking quite fast, I could not get the chance to read every single sign properly. Nonetheless, the two signs I read and remembered made me ponder all day. One was ‘we choose to be a family’ and another was the above.
The above said : we love our sons and daughters who are gays and lesbians, unconditionally. So true, and so striking.
In this more open-minded country Canada, the parents have also gone through such stage where they can’t accept their children being homosexual. Even when they accept eventually, just like what the board said, there might be cases of the parents give the children terms and conditions to follow.This make me think of the gays and lesbians in Asia. Being a much more conservative region, the gays and lesbians there have a longer and tougher road ahead.
I have many Asian friends who are gays and lesbians too. For those who live in Asia, they won’t dare to tell the parents about it and just trying to hide as long as they could. I don’t know what to say when they tell me that. I was also told that, some homosexual friends who eventually ‘forced’ to marry to opposite sex. Well, they have no choice in a way. For those who live in western countries, they chose not to return, because they know too well that they won’t be accepted by the society.
On that day, after the Pride Parade, Ed and I went to a party at a gay couple’s home. They are a middle aged couple. They have been together for more than 10 years, still happily together, they proud of each other, never hide, never worry about others’ opinions. They build a good life together, both have very good careers and have a beautiful apartment, they have very wonderful and caring friends and family.
At the party, looking at them, in my heart, I pray for my friends in Asia, hoping that they could also live such a life, free and happy together….
我昨天才知道，我的一个同事是一位女性，因为她一直是男性打扮，一起工作了很久我也没发现她是女人。当然她也是同性恋。听说她去年跟一个女孩子结婚了，可几个月前女孩子要跟她分手，之后她就辞职了。不知道为什么想起她我心里会隐隐得难过，她的生活会很不容易吧。
我的英语不好，但我试着翻译一下吧。
I just heard that one of my colleague is a famale till yesterday, because she is always dress up like a male. I have been worked with her in a period but I didn’t find it out. Of course she is a lesbian. She got married with a girl last year( I don’t know how she did it, because it is not legal in Canada). But a few month ago, her wife wanted to separate with her, since then, she quitted the job. I don’t know why, when I thought of her, I feel a little bit sad, because I feel her life is not easy……
写留言还得翻译哦~
同性恋真的事没有错的，他们又没有干什么坏事，那只是他们两个人的事，又没有逼你与他们一样~
Wow, need to translate our own comment?
gay and lesbian is not a mistake, it is not some kind of criminal issues, is just involve 2 person, and they didn’t force anyone to be act like them too.
你什麼時候要生??
when are you having your baby??
Vivien,
唉！希望你的同事还好。
我的男朋友告诉我，自去年开始，加拿大政府已正式承认同性恋者，让他们注册结婚。
DSvT,
嘻嘻！不用翻译留言啦！但如果有时间，也不妨。让英文读者也可以读。:)
我也赞同你说的。
SK,
hey, 我不明白你的留言？！
我几时生，跟此贴字有什么关系？
I see majority of Asian may not be able to comprehend the feeling, inner thought of Lesbian and Gay, even myself I have forgotten the understanding I sensed before currently.
Would there be a revoluvtion like we had in our history ?
Wow !! Jasin, what you said is pretty cool and philosophical. Umm…..I kind of understand what you said….
I guess, sometimes, we also lose senses of who and what we ourselves really are. I know friends who are bisexual, or who want to be the opposite sex. Regardless, what they or we feel inside, I think, the most important thing is to give the full respect to them and ourselves. I personally think, it is important to allow the rooms for people to search and understand ourselves.
In terms of history, I think, there is always a revolution, be it in this issue or the other. I personally think, as long as we human beings, are leading to a more positive, respectful, value-creating and peaceful society, rather than, judgmental, and violent society, then is ok.
不要把它看成是错的，它就是对的~
Everything will be correct if we don’t judge it wrong~
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